Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Validation

…to make valid; substantiate; confirm
…to give official sanction, confirmation, or approval to; authenticate, verify, prove.

This is what The Random House Dictionary says about “validation.”

I am in constant need of validation. My thoughts always turn to questions such as “am I good enough? Will “people” approve of me or what I am doing?”
It’s really evident with my children. Am I a good mom? Do I do enough for my family? Will my boys remember a “happy” childhood?

I’ve been seeking validation my whole life. Sometimes it gets to the point where it interferes with my decision making, my “right” thinking, and my spiritual journey.

Why do I constantly need this validation? I am a child of God. God doesn’t require validation. In God’s eyes, I am His gracious daughter. He loves me for who I am. I am an imperfect human being, made perfect through the sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Why isn’t that enough for me?

I apologize to all the “crunchy” moms out there. I just needed to validate myself when I spewed out those rantings. It just goes to show you that I am human and subject to all the emotions of such a being.
But that doesn’t make it right. God wants us to love one another as He has loved us. To me, that means to accept all our differences, put them aside, and embrace each other with the love of Jesus Christ. Do you know how much Jesus Christ loves us? He loves us so much that He endured the worst kind of torture and died on the cross to forgive our sins & renew our souls! What AMAZING LOVE!

I need that kind of love in my life! Don’t you? If you said yes, then it’s your time. It’s your time to admit that you are a sinner. Pray to God for mercy. Accept Jesus into your heart and proclaim that He is Lord! Turn away from sin and put your eyes on God! There are no magic words. Just pray what is in your heart. Pray that the Lord will forgive you and ask that Jesus take up house in your heart! Then seek Him in all that you do. Find a church and someone who can direct you in this endeavor. And your life will never be the same again!

3 comments:

  1. I understand what you are talking about. The need for validation is something I've struggled with for a long time. I could be wrong, but I think a lot of women suffer from this as well.

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  2. Thanks for sharing that hun :) I also think a lot of women struggle with this as well.

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  3. I struggle with this every day. I call it insecurity but it is that same thing. I have in deep depressions over this sort of thing. Only when I am living for God alone and not for others so I feel better. That is a hard thing to do, and I struggle with that daily as well.
    Hugs Mare, you are not alone
    love ya

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